Emotional and physical healing to set yourself free

Brandon Bays: 16 Lessons Learned in Life

We’ve put together a list of 16 lessons learned from the experience of Brandon Bays to help you to stay on track. It’s a little inspiration to remind you who you really are, and how to live in truth. Enjoy!

1. Call off the search

“You are already free and completely whole. Your essence is vast and spacious, and the enlightened awareness you have been seeking is already present, calling you home to your self… right now.
“Know that who you are is brilliant, priceless, fabulous. This essence shines in all of us. We are all diamonds.”

There is nothing you can do to attain this freedom, simply relax…  it is already here… it is who you really are.”

2. Love yourself fully, even the secret, hidden, parts

“When you are willing to shine the light of love onto the parts that you are not proud of – onto the unaccepted parts, the unloved parts, the unwanted emotions, into all the darkened corners of your soul – love will suffuse them, embrace them, until you are left as nothing but love itself. Love arises when you expose everything.”

3. Forgiveness is the key to inner freedom

“So often we make the mistake of believing we are forgiving the other person for their sake, but the truth is, whenever we forgive, we release the consciousness of the whole story that we’ve been holding onto and nursing, and when it’s gone, we are the ones who are freed.”

“Forgiveness is the route to freedom, if you are willing to drop your games, be humble, open and release the stored pain, and allow natural compassion for others to arise. Humility is the key for true forgiveness.”

“The healing power of forgiveness is palpably strong. It heals bodies. It heals lives. It heals relationships. It can heal entire nations. And it truly is a gift you can give yourself.”

4. Listen to your heart

“Nobody can tell you what is best for you. Listen to your heart, it knows the perfect actions to take. When you feel trapped, without choice, trust your inner wisdom to guide you. Just trust and let go.”

5. Listen to your body

“Sometimes we get wrapped up in the confusion of the mind. The mind is a tricky place to dwell. It’s always changing. Stop looking to your mind for answers. Instead, place all your awareness on your body. The body is the barometer of your soul. If you have a question, ask, breathe into the front of your body and listen. Your body never lies.”

6. You are responsible for your own happinessWhat is happiness

“Believing that your love and happiness depend on someone or something outside of you. You make the mistake that your joy comes from that new car you got or the great shoes or the fabulous holiday but these are simply an expression of your joy, not the cause of it.”

Often we crave that all-embracing love, searching for it in others, becoming obsessive even addictive in our search. Then we blame others for how we are feeling, that somehow they are not living up to our expectations, our rules. And we strive to be loved more, craving the attention we feel we should be receiving, creating instead a feeling of separation and aloneness.

“Let go of non-personal love, nobody can fulfill you, you are already enough, complete, whole. Once you realize that this love can’t go anywhere, then all possibilities are open to you and. Be willing to drop your guards, be exposed, vulnerable and let this vaster love which does not come or go guide you.”

7. Your thoughts have no meaning

“The nature of the thinking mind is fear, doubt and judgment – a stream of imagined words, sounds and pictures passing through consciousness. The only meaning it has is the story, the meaning we invest in it. It is not real.”

“Let all your thoughts be none of your business. Attach no meaning to them. Let them come and let them go, and then discover what remains untouched by any thoughts.”

8. Accept that everything happens for a reason

“Know that whatever is happening in your life right now is perfect, accept it is there for a reason. Relax! And let go of the mental constructs your mind is creating. Acceptance leads to wholesome right action.”

“When we collapse our being into a thought or a story of ‘me’ and ‘my life’, or get caught in the endless mind-trap of trying to understand, we become very thing we focus on. Just drop the story. Stop asking why. Stop trying to figure it out. Stop blaming. Stop wheel spinning. Just stop!”

9. Express your gratitude

“Take a moment to notice what is around you! When you notice and are grateful for everything around you – your loved ones, your health, your ability to see, smell, hear, touch, your career, your home, your ability to breath – it creates a window, an opening into grace. When you take the time to stop and really be present, every experience in life is an opportunity to fall into gratitude.”

“When you wake up each morning, take some moments to look around you, greeting the new day with fresh eyes, and experience the grace surrounding you. Give thanks with all your heart for another day that you’ve been blessed with these priceless gifts. Remember everything is on loan, you are only the caretaker, these gifts were never yours, they have only ever been on loan. Everything is on loan.”

10. Give up the need to know

“Has a ‘need to know’ been arising lately? Have you been spending time trying to figure out the mysteries of life? Give up the need to know. If your thinking mind could have figured things out, it would have done so a long time ago. Life is a mystery, unknowable and divine. Be content to rest in this mystery.”

11. Let go of attachment

“Freedom can only be experienced in the emptiness of nonattachment: nonattachment to your ideas, beliefs, and acquired knowledge, all of which are merely mental constructs born from past experiences, which take your attention away from what is here right now –  your present moment awareness.”

“When you choose to let go of all you think you know, let all the filters drop away, then this awareness is all that remains.”

12. Stop struggling. Just let go

What keeps you from being fully present in every moment? “Recognise the excuses you use to justify  being non-present. Let your thoughts of past or future, why or how wind down. Notice your strategies to be distracted by the endless motion and activity of life. Really hear your internal dialogue of “I don’t have time and there’s so much to do.” When you stop the fight, drop the games, quiet the mind, you allow yourself to be fully present. Give yourself permission to simply stop.”

13. Life always gives you a second chanceLessons learned every day

“Each life experience is our teacher. Each day is a fresh start, Each hour is a new beginning. Every second is your second chance.”

14. No matter how deep the issue, you can heal yourself

“No matter how deep the issue is and no matter how long you have struggled with it, the possibility exists for you to become absolutely free, whole, and healed.”

15. All the answers are already within you

Are you busy looking for something “out there” – an ideal, a paradise, Nirvana?”
“What if there is nothing to find, to attain? When you turn your awareness inwards, you realize you are already resting in an ocean of perfection, all possibilities, this enlightened awareness.

16. Allow yourself to fully feel

“True courage is the willingness to fully experience whatever you are feeling in the moment. You can attempt to run from your emotions, but eventually they will catch up with you. They will hunt you down, until finally you give up the chase. Be willing to sit still, open with your emotions and feel them fully. Then notice what remains.”

Please share with us the lesson that most resonated with you.

There are 10 comments


    By Liz clay waddell | January 5, 2016 at 10:00 am

    That all the answers are already within me. When I read this, the simplicity of this truth washed through me and I felt a letting go. It is a relief not to have to hold on so tightly. I can let go and know that truth will emerge. Eventually. Inevitably. Without me having to find it. Awesome!


    Thank you. I feel an overwhelming love when I read those messages. I can honestly say that the Practitioners Course is the best thing I ever did. For me, for my loved ones and for this life. I truly was lost and now am found. Evch day, in each moment. Awesome love. Heartbreaking love. Inspirational love. Thank you.

    Lesson #5

    Thank you for these lessons. They are all so meaningful, full of truth. If I had to pick one that stands out, I would pick #5. Yes, get out of my mind so much….:)……this lesson touches me deeply and fully, brings me such joy to feel what my body has to tell me….

    Lesson nr 5

    By Marion Gulpers | April 23, 2016 at 9:21 pm

    Al these lessons are valuable and help us lead a happy and fulfilled loife. And my favorite is nr 5: I use my body as a pendulum. It is always right. Works like a charm and it is easy to apply. I teach it to many of my clients! Life gets sooooo easy! 🙂

    You can heal yourself #14

    By Angel Malloch | May 30, 2016 at 12:00 am

    No one can do it for you and it requires only your time and energy to put into regular processes & healthy living…dis-ease & pain in the body are the “something’s not right signals”…we have to look at what we are struggling with, what we need to let go of, rather than reaching for painkillers which in my experience are another way of numbing out/narcotizing life

    Thank you

    By Eleanor Snoddy | June 25, 2016 at 7:58 am

    Thank you thank you thank you… These messages came to me at the perfect time and almost all of them are things I know but they have been lost in my overthinking and attempts to control my situation and surroundings. Today I let it all go and I am thankful for where I am and what I have in this moment. Thank you

    lesson 13

    I believe that we are presented with learnings time and time again, until we take notice. I like to consider lesson 13, that we all have a second chance, a new dawn, a new day!

    Call of the search

    Thanks for starting with: “Call of the search”. Unexpected, and a summary of everything else. Simple ánd difficult.

    lessson 15

    when I am very still, I feel there is only awareness, thoughts also, but arising in awareness, thank you unending

    Every odd number

    By Chrystene Hansen | July 26, 2016 at 11:17 pm

    Felt like a ping going off over and over as I read these. Everyone calling me home. No words Brandon. Namaste

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